Gynecology

Where Did Libido Go and How to Get It Back?

When I posted yesterday’s stories, I didn’t expect such a response. In fact, many girls filled out the survey form saying they have or had problems with libido. Most often, they say they had issues during pregnancy, after giving birth, while taking birth control pills, or during periods of severe stress.

Let’s start with what libido is. Libido is a person’s desire for sexual activity. The strength of libido is determined even in the womb, so genetics play a significant role.

There is no clear norm for how often sexual desire should appear ➡️ if you feel it once a month and it doesn’t stress you out — you’re healthy, and it’s okay.

But if your libido has decreased and it bothers you, causes stress, or affects your relationship — the problem should be addressed. Logically, to solve the problem, you first need to find the cause. So in this post, I’ll list the most common to the rarest causes of libido issues ⬇️

⚠️ The most common issue — PSYCHOLOGICAL problems. This includes chronic stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, or problems in the relationship with your partner…
⚠️ HORMONAL — low testosterone levels, which affect sexual desire.
⚠️ MEDICATION — antidepressants, birth control pills, beta-blockers, anti-estrogens.
⚠️ SPECIFIC FEMALE CONDITIONS:

*️⃣ postpartum period — usually a mix of factors: chronic fatigue, high prolactin, constant lack of sleep, painful intercourse. Most often, this is normal and doesn’t need treatment — it will pass once the body recovers.
*️⃣ menopause — also a hormonal cause. It’s linked to a sharp drop in estrogen and testosterone.
*️⃣ pregnancy. Especially in the first trimester when testosterone drops and there’s morning sickness. 90% of women don’t want sex during this time.

⚠️ gynecological conditions that cause painful sex — fibroids, vaginitis, endometriosis, postpartum injuries…
⚠️ general health conditions.

Now that you know the cause, you probably want to know how to fix it. If so — write in the comments ⬇️

And here’s a philosophical question for you at the end 😅 Do you think both partners in a marriage should have the same sexual constitution? And if not — what should they do? 🤯

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